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There are two more stories I have to tell before the end of my Friends for Life summaries.

The first is about my best pharma friend (BPF?) Brian.

A few years ago, I had a favorite pen. It was actually one of the first pictures I ever took when I got my Canon SLR.

September 5, 2008 - diabetes365 - day 333

I loved that pen.

Until the day that I lost that pen. My life was never the same.

I looked everywhere for a replacement pen, but due to the product placement of a certain Jonas brother, the Simple Wins were no longer in style.

In a desperate final attempt, I stopped by the Bayer booth when the exhibit hall opened at Friends for Life to see if by any small chance they had any Simple Wins pens. As I suspected, they weren’t making them anymore and they didn’t have any at the booth.

I was about to walk away in tears when Brian stopped me. He said he thought he might have one in his car. If I was willing to wait, he would try to track down a pen for me.

Simple Wins

Before long, I felt a tap on my shoulder and saw one of the most beautiful sights.

best pharma friend - by Kerri thank you for the picture, Kerri!

Seriously, have you ever seen such a big, ridiculous smile on my face?!?! And who said big pharma does not care about us?!?!

Thanks Brian!!


The other story that needs to be told is about the new favorite Type Awesome of the adult crew.

Her name is Dr. Jill Weissberg-Benchell and awesome does not even begin to describe her.

I think she was supposed to talk to us about managing transitions as adults, but she never made it past the first PowerPoint slide. Instead, we sat in a circle and passed around the tissues.

It is not often that you find a mental health professional who understands what it means to live day-to-day with diabetes.

Jill gets it.

Jill gets us.

Most, but certainly not all, of the people in the circle were involved in diabetes related social media in some way. She was amazed by our ability to encourage one another in that regard while simultaneously being hard on ourselves and refusing to give ourselves a break.

I have been repeating one of my favorite quotes from her since the session ended.

“Shoulds breed shame, so stop shoulding all over yourself.”

Think of how many times you say “I should take better care of myself” “I should treat my high blood sugars before they get so high” “I should test more often”


How about “I will take better care of myself” “I will treat my out of range blood sugars quicker” “I will test more often”

Isn’t that empowering?

Thank you so much for everything that you do Dr. Jill. And you still owe us a nail painting session!


3 responses

  1. That’s my new favorite quote, Sara!!! Love it. Makes me want to just stop making excuses and setting the stage for more future-shouldas – and just DO what needs to be done. Thanks for the motivational push there! Oh, and as a guy who loves writing and is a pen-lover himself: NICE PEN! Thanks for being awesome, Brian! 🙂

  2. you + that pen = reunited and it feels so good!

    i remember the tweets flying fast after the session with jill. it sounds like it was super inspiring.

  3. I love Jill. And her husband, Neil, is just as awesome as she is. 🙂

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