I have recently begun interacting with a female, Type 1, pumper who has just started college. It is her first time away from home and away from a very difficult mother.
Basically, here is the story: she has been at school for 2 weeks and has told several people (including myself) that she has tested 3 times in the entire 2 weeks. I have caught her twice without her pump on. Her excuse was that she was low, but at the times she was far away from her room so it would be a while before she would be able to re-connect. Of course, she has been guessing at her meal boluses. The three tests she did do were all in the 300s. It is quite likely she has been floating around the 300s for the entire two weeks.
She told me that she doesn’t know what her problem is, that she doesn’t know why she can’t seem to do what she knows she needs to do.
I have given her a little advice, but I don’t know what it is like to be in her shoes. I wasn’t diagnosed until the end of college, and for that I am almost thankful. I don’t know what it is to be in a new place, trying to fit, make friends, and just be like everyone else. So far her new ‘friends’ have been pretty good to her, but how long can you deal with someone who’s emotions are all over the place on the blood sugar rollercoaster?
I don’t know what it is like to be an 18 year old diabetic. But I do not what it is like to wear something 24 hours a day, 7 days a week that reminds you that something is wrong with you, and let’s face it – will probably always be wrong with you. Wearing something that reminds you that every relationship you have will be different because of it, that every dream you have for the future – dreams 18 year olds spend endless time talking about in their dorm rooms at night – will be different. Constantly answering questions. Dealing with people’s foolish assumptions. Being flat-out tired of being diabetic.
So, my questions are: Were you a rebel diabetic? How can I best help this girl? Did anyone say anything to you that made a difference? Is it a phase?
Thoughts, feelings, stories, advice, resources, links, prayers, and support greatly appreciated!